Twisted love dating violence exposed
"If a partner gets mad because someone didn't answer their text in five minutes or less and throw a fit; if one partner takes away the other person's phone, not allowing you to talk to someone else in the hallway or not allowing you to sit at a certain table in the lunchroom, those are signs of an unhealthy relationship,” Black said.
While physical attraction may ignite a relationship, Black explained respect, trust, consent and open communication are all crucial to keeping it healthy.
Further, there seems to be a cultural promotion of expressing violence or taking out your bad day on innocent others as “a normal reaction” to a bad day.
Violence is not an acceptable manner of coping when things don’t go your way. However, in too many relationships, the onset of the abusive incident becomes something is expected and accepted.
The recent media attention to the abuse of women by their high status partners is bringing much needed attention to an all too prevalent form of encounter between intimate partners.
While movies theaters have been presenting a wide variety of treatments of this issue (from marital rape in ) for over three quarters of a century, violence and abuse between partners show little change in dynamics or consequence.
"If a partner says something inappropriate to another partner, just say, 'Hey, that's not how you should act.' Make sure that everyone's aware that you saw that that is how that person is treating someone and that you don't approve of it,” he said.
“That often will go a long way and help give the victim strength to step up and know that you're an ally." There are also many organizations that victims of teen dating violence can contact for support, says Heather Frederick with the National Domestic Violence Hotline.
When apologies, placing blaming on you, and promises of change are quick to follow the abuser’s actions, these should be the last “red flags” you need to walk away before you are caught up in the cycle and it becomes too late.Both men and women can be the battered or the batterers.The message that intimate violence and domestic abuse transcend gender, ethnicity, race, socio-economic status, age, occupation, sexual orientation, and any other demographic variable people might try to promote as sacred is increasingly communicated and accepted.February is Teen Dating Violence Awareness Month, and multiple groups are taking the opportunity to educate teens about healthy relationships.Sean Black, assistant director at the Illinois Coalition Against Sexual Assault, said most abusive relationships involve a partner who wants to control the other.
According to statistics from Love Is Respect.org, 25 percent of high school girls have been victims of physical or sexual abuse, and 70 percent of college students have been sexually coerced.